All posts filed under: Engagement

What To Do About Trump: Some Practical Steps for Today

The neo-Nazis are marching across our cities, the country is run by an under-qualified liar, and we’re polluting our natural resources with all sorts of poisons (and that’s not to mention threats of nuclear war). It’s easy to feel helpless or hopeless so I thought I’d put together a few practical action steps we can take right away. Heal your primary relationships We’re going to need to be a united front against all the darkness that is being uncovered. That means we need to have strong and unbreakable bonds with our parents, our children, our bosses, our boyfriends, girlfriends, spouses, and friends. Any unfinished business is a key to our personal healing and growth. Take a look at a few of your relationships that could be healthier, and take a step to making it better. For most of us, this means starting the therapy we’ve been procrastinating on. But it may not need to be a professional, find a person in your life who’s willing and able to listen without judgement and whose feedback you …

Single or Paired-off: It’s Time to Get Engaged

By Joshunda Sanders ***** This Valentine’s Day, I’m thrilled to host my first guest writer, Joshunda Sanders. Her blog regularly takes my breath away, inspiring me to delve deeper into the love and pain in my writing. She has worked as a  journalist at the Houston Chronicle, the Seattle Post-Intelligencer and the San Francisco Chronicle, in addition to publishing articles at Bitch Magazine, VIBE Magazine, and many others. You can currently find her teaching in the Journalism Department at the University of Texas. I dare you not to lose/find yourself in this post. ***** In my twenties, I lived on the West Coast. Around the year I turned 25, I was living in California, land of the free, home of the hippies. The Bay Area Joan Didion made come alive for me was not the post-dot com environment that I slurped soup in. But what I loved about it was that I could just do whatever I wanted. I could work out with a group of other single people on steps overlooking Lake Merritt down the street …

Does Tiffany Know True Love?

You’ve got to give it to their advertising agency. Using real-life stories to sell engagement rings makes the rest of us feel like it’s a simple process once he buys the ring and pops the question… In reality, though, an engagement can be the first time both people actually think about what it means to devote a lifetime to each other. I’ve heard about myriads of broken engagements and 2 year long marriages; in one woman’s blog about her engagement, she and her fiancé slowly realize that they hadn’t really thought about what marriage event meant, and the blog trails off into nothingness. Without religious or cultural context, what is this marriage (we’re all obsessed with having) even about? My parents divorced when I was 8 years old, so an innate knowledge of a happy marriage eluded me. Yet I knew it was the thing I wanted more than anything else.  By 18 I learned to take my queues from the media, developing a skewed sense of love relationships. I thought love meant you devoted …