All posts filed under: Empowerment

What’s your name, Goddess?

by Katina Hubbard In a Venice, CA juice bar, a girl peeked over the counter to ask me a question: “Wha sh ss gwen-ed?” To which I replied, “Excuse me?” “What’s your name, Nosshneis?” Confused and frustrated by the whizzing blenders, I looked at her carefully for a moment. Did I know her from somewhere? After a pause I realized I’d never before seen her lovely face, and asked again, “What?” To which she replied, clearly and loudly, “What’s your name, Goddess?” Shocked by what she’d said and how rudely I’d ruined her delivery I said simply, “uh, Katina, what’s yours?” She told me and made another smoothie. I didn’t amend our awkward interaction, but what she said stuck with me for days. We’re all trying to be better people. For me, specifically, a better woman, and a better Katina. There’s our little goals to be more healthy, get a better job, have a healthier relationship, but what if there’s a current running through all of us, that can make us become the better selves …

Successful Careers for Women: Do We Sabotage Ourselves?

There have been many articles over the years and of late dealing with the issue of women wanting to “have it all” – a career and a family life.  So I was extremely excited to find Sheryl Sandberg, Chief Operating Officer at Facebook’s commencement speech to Barnard College graduates on May 8, 2011, which shed incredible new light on the issue. Sheryl is 42 years-young and happily married with two kids. In the meantime she’s been Chief of Staff of the U.S. Treasury, Vice President at Google, and now COO at Facebook, where she’s credited with turning the social network from “just another MySpace” into a $104 billion dollar company. (Regardless of your feelings about Facebook,) Sheryl has some extraordinarily insightful things to say to women about sticking with their careers and “having it all.” Many of us would be happy raising five wonderful kids and spending a lifetime devoted to home, family, and friends. But almost every person I know has a yearning not only to have a family but to give their unique …

On Dead Bodies and Speaking Your Truth: A Note From Your Yoga Teacher

This week, I’m thrilled to host internationally-beloved yoga teacher and a woman-well-loved, Sarah Willis. Sarah teaches yoga with incredible mastery, humor, and the rare down-to-earth patience and understanding that provides the ultimate safe space for growth. She also hosts startlingly affordable life-changing yoga retreats in Mexico, where you have the pleasure of experiencing her loving guidance and patience in person, in paradise. Here she’ll talk about the science behind using our voices through chanting mantras: energy-based sounds that distill the power of our speech to create immense positive change and clarity for our bodies and minds! Over the years I’ve come to believe that a lot of what “holds me back” from manifesting my ideal self is a deep core belief that I’m not good enough, that I’m not loved, and that I don’t deserve to be great. What a load of bullshit, right? However, latent negative beliefs about ourselves are the most powerful tool we have for self-sabotage. It’s that quiet, hardly noticeable voice in our ear that says, “you can’t,” or whatever our specific …

Please Judge Me by My Shoes

By Katina Hubbard It’s true: I judge people’s shoes. Fortunately I don’t do it to place them in a master shoe hierarchy or a dichotomy of good and bad shoes, oh no, I am not capable of this sort of cranial computation. Instead, I learned to look at people’s shoes due to an extreme hippy upbringing that fostered all sorts of open-minded, non-judgmental behavior in me such as taking a bus into the Congo when I was 19 and having “heart-to-hearts” with strangers on New York City subways. Somewhere along the line I started using shoes as an indicator of where people are going and who they might be. And now I notice shoes in a borderline idiot savant sort of way. I actually remember people by their shoes and will regularly describe strangers as “the one wearing the tan loafers with dark laces” which has proved particularly unhelpful to some of my dearest male colleagues and counterparts. But I love shoes for the stories they hint at, how specific to space and time they …

Single or Paired-off: It’s Time to Get Engaged

By Joshunda Sanders ***** This Valentine’s Day, I’m thrilled to host my first guest writer, Joshunda Sanders. Her blog regularly takes my breath away, inspiring me to delve deeper into the love and pain in my writing. She has worked as a  journalist at the Houston Chronicle, the Seattle Post-Intelligencer and the San Francisco Chronicle, in addition to publishing articles at Bitch Magazine, VIBE Magazine, and many others. You can currently find her teaching in the Journalism Department at the University of Texas. I dare you not to lose/find yourself in this post. ***** In my twenties, I lived on the West Coast. Around the year I turned 25, I was living in California, land of the free, home of the hippies. The Bay Area Joan Didion made come alive for me was not the post-dot com environment that I slurped soup in. But what I loved about it was that I could just do whatever I wanted. I could work out with a group of other single people on steps overlooking Lake Merritt down the street …

Why I’m Blogging Like a Crazy Person

by Katina Hubbard This is not a blog about women. We will work our butts off so that our daughters’ daughters will live in a world where they are worth the same amount of money as their male counterparts in the workplace. Where the terms ‘sexy,’ ‘pretty,’ and ‘beautiful’ mean something uniquely true for every woman instead of a fake and unattainable societal standard. A world where our daughters can’t believe how old-fashioned it was to have never had a female president. But as soon as we get there, won’t we have to turn around and do the same thing for men? To pick up the pieces of our sons who’ve been told that they have to be strong all the time and that they’re worthless if they can’t provide a luxurious lifestyle for their family? For our sons who’ve been told that their brains are more important than their feelings, and have learned to shut them off? For our sons at a loss because their anger makes them violent, their sadness makes them cry, …

Being Loved by the Most Powerful Man in the World

“He’s romantic, he doesn’t forget dates or birthdays…He always comes through.” She’s talking about her husband, who also happens to be the President of the United States. In a media climate rampant with extra-marital affairs, sexually frustrated politicians, and a steady stream of marriages ending as prematurely as they began, the Obamas are a pillar of stability and love. And though you can never be to sure of what’s happening behind closed doors, Michelle Obama is at the top of my list of Women Well Loved. So what’s her secret? Respect Yourself First. The First Lady told Ellen, “the one thing Barack has done…is support me through everything I’ve done. He’s always had my back.” Which got me thinking. Has he always had her back? Michelle Obama was not ‘jumping for joy’ over her husband’s presidential campaign. In fact, she wouldn’t fully support him until he agreed to quit smoking (he was using cigarettes to cope with the additional stress). Her number one concern pre-, during, and post-presidency is that her children remain unaffected. And according to …